In this book alfie kohn encourages us to reconsider our typical parenting discipline style that usually consists of various strategies of trying to control our children. He is the author of fourteen books, including unconditional parenting and. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from doing to to working with parenting. Apr 24, 2018 the term was researched and written about by alfie kohn in his groundbreaking book unconditional parenting. Moving from rewards and punishments to love and reason audible audiobook unabridged alfie kohn author, narrator, tantor audio publisher 4. Moving from rewards and punishments to love and reason by kohn, alfie and a great selection of related books, art and collectibles available now at. Unconditional parenting audiobook alfie kohn audible. I am interested in learning the principles of alfie kohn. Mar 28, 2006 a groundbreaking approach to parenting by nationallyrespected educator alfie kohn that gives parents powerful alternatives to help children become their most caring, responsible selves adele faber, new york times bestselling author by switching the dynamic from doing things to children to working with them in order to understand their needs and how to meet them. Perhaps it was a reaction to the rigidity of the postworldwarii era. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator alfie kohn begins instead by asking what do kids need and how can we meet those needs.
In his landmark book, unconditional parenting and in his dvd alfie kohn begins instead by asking, what are our longterm goals for our children. Mar 28, 2006 buy the paperback book unconditional parenting. Alfie kohn has 30 books on goodreads with 44285 ratings. I do believe that proactive parenting is more effective than reactive parenting. It was about his belief that punishing children sends the damaging message that you do not love them. More than just another book about discipline, though, unconditional parenting addresses the. In an article published in the new york times, alfie kohn, who, by sheer serendipity, happens to be author of a book called unconditional parenting, writes. In short, kids require unconditional acceptance to flourish. Unconditional parenting is going to make you think hard about the type of relationship you want to have with your child, about your parenting priorities, and about how to avoid many of the mistakes of our predecessors.
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Alfie kohns most popular book is unconditional parenting. He is the author of 12 books, including punished by rewards, the schools our children deserve, beyond discipline. Alfie kohn born october 15, 1957 is an american author and lecturer in the areas of education, parenting, and human behavior. He is the author of 12 books, including punished by rewards, the. Moving from rewards and punishments to love and reason by alfie kohn.
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Just like what in mentioned in the post, being a reactive parent, you focus on what you should do in order for your child to stop with their bad behaviors. Kohn debunks many popular discipline strategies including timeouts, positive reinforcement and praise, reward systems, and punishment. It follows that we need to work with them, rather than doing things to them, in order to reach those goals. Free shipping and pickup in store on eligible orders. Its what weve come to expect from alfie kohn, and this is unquestionably one of his most persuasive, important works. Jan 06, 2015 alfie kohn writes and speaks widely on human behavior, education, and parenting. The concept of unconditional parenting appeals to me, the idea that we love our kids unconditionally. He is a proponent of progressive education and has offered critiques of many traditional aspects of parenting, managing, and american society more generally, drawing in each case from social science research. A look at the book july 31, 2012 by kathleen quiring 28 comments i was already well on the path towards gentle discipline due to my increasing commitment to radical nonviolence and embrace of attachment parenting when i came across alfie kohns book unconditional parenting.
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Alfie kohn s most popular book is unconditional parenting. And ive been told many times that parents have found his book unconditional parenting the most useful parenting book they had read. Unconditional parenting is the term that kohn uses to describe a relationship where the quality and quantity of parental attention is not limited to punishing a childs bad behavior and rewarding good behavior. Love kids for who they are unconditional love instead of for what they do conditional love over many years, researchers have found that the more conditional the support one receives, the lower ones perceptions of overall worth as a person. I m an avid listener of repectful parenting books on audible. This book focuses beyond parenting techniques but is all about reframing our ideas about children to think about what they need as people and how we can work with them. His overall philosophy can be summed up as work with kids, dont do to kids.
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Unconditional parenting is a very important book that can chal lenge, support, and even change our perspective on what parents do. Listen to unconditional parenting audiobook by alfie kohn, narrated by alfie. More than just another book about discipline, though, unconditional parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. A groundbreaking approach to parenting by nationallyrespected educator alfie kohn that gives parents powerful alternatives to help children become their most caring, responsible selves adele faber, new york times bestselling author by switching the dynamic from doing things to children to working with them in order to understand their needs and how to meet them. Alfie kohn is the author of fourteen books on education and parenting, including unconditional parenting, and the newly rereleased myth of the spoiled child. Moving from rewards and punishment to love and reason. Michael gurian, the wonder of boys and the wonder of girls alfie kohn does it again. Moving from rewards and punishments to love and reason enter your mobile number or email address below and well send you a link to download the free kindle app. In his book, kohn says that rather than looking at rewards or punishments, it is important to look at childrens needs and fulfil them. Moving from rewards and punishments to love and reason by alfie kohn at indigo. When people hear the name alfie kohn, their first thought is usually unconditional parenting.